Sorry, Not Sorry

his has been a blog post that I have been wanting to write for months…

Blake Lively says it best in A Simple Favor. She says stop saying sorry because it is a messed up female habit. Now, when you do something wrong, apologizing is the right thing to do, however I find myself apologizing for things that I should not be sorry for.

Stop saying sorry for who you are. Stop Saying sorry for where you come from. Stop saying sorry for what you have worked hard to receive. Stop saying sorry for great opportunities in life. Stop saying sorry for making healthy choices for your life. Stop saying sorry for removing toxic people out of your life. Stop. Saying. Sorry.

The last four years have been me doing all of those things listed above. I felt bad for who I am and why I am this way. I felt bad at times for coming from a solid family that supports me in every way. I felt bad for the things working out for me, when it didn’t for others. I felt bad for letting people go out of my life or creating healthy boundaries. I felt bad for standing up for myself.

That is no more. If you are reading this I am telling you, YOU and I will stop saying sorry. You are who you are for millions of reasons. God made you perfectly and life has molded to be who you are. You are the only you that anyone could be. You can control you. You can’t control how others feel or what they think. Whether people love you or they are jealous of you, that is out of your control. What I have learned is that the people you want in your life accept and embrace you for exactly who you are, even if you make mistakes. Those who try to control you, keep you down, or bring negativity into your life are not the people you want to hold onto.

I am done apologizing for standing up for myself. I am done letting others control my happiness. I am done feeling bad for having healthy boundaries that other can’t respect. I am done apologizing for my past. I am done feeling guilty for the things I have worked hard to get. I am done being sorry that I was born into a wonderful family that has given me an incredible support system. I have made mistakes and I can recognize those and learn from them. But mistakes are things we can move forward from, not something that people should constantly remind you of. No one is perfect and we learn and grow from the hard times in life.

Now, don’t get me wrong…loving others and supporting those who are struggling is still so important. We still need to have empathy for those who face obstacles. I would not survive all of mine if it wasn’t for amazing friends and family. This is not to make others feel bad for things they struggle with or have to battle!! But, being a good friend does not mean tearing down the positive things in your life.

You don’t owe anyone ANYTHING. I am always tryin

g to defend and explain myself to people who will not ever listen. This can be so frustrating. We have to recognize we do not owe them any explanation because it is a waste of time. No matter how we say it or how many times we say it, they won’t hear us.

So stop saying sorry for who you are. You are loved. You are important. You are needed. You are awesome. Who you are is special and no one can take that from you. Keep working hard and kicking butt! The people that are still there supporting you are the people you want in your life. 2019 is a year of YOU, self love, and hard work! Let’s do this!